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Yassy’s note:Liam’s first year:Day 92-Day 97

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 94..

Liam started stir and then crying and I remembered the youtube video of decoding baby cry

Decoding baby cry..

I listened to his cry very carefully and tried diaper change (he had his milk not too long ago so,I thought it was something else or simply got hungry again).

Once I started trying to change his diaper, he was laying on the bed calmly and let me change his diaper and got quiet down:-)

Did I do what he wanted me to do? I hope I did, but not sure.

Day 95..

I am happy to report that Liam has been doing great job on head up exercise on tummy time;he be on his tummy and hold his head up and stay.

Since he does not go down after one second,I have been counting and today, he kept his head up for 200 seconds!!

Maybe his head/neck might become stable soon???

He is happily sucking his pacifier after the short nap, and talking to himself .

Oops,he started crying for help;missing pacifier??

Just passed 7pm, Liam has just finished another tummy time exercise,and held his head for 260!! I am getting tired counting,lol.

Day 97..

Liam is getting pro for breast feeding. Today, he spent 20 min on one, 13 min on the other and by the time of last burp time, his eyes were already closed (although I could see his white parts of the eye a bit) but head down on my shoulder and started Zzzzzzzzz…

Must have been such a hard work to eat,lol.

Our pediatrician told us to give him supplemental dose of milk to make sure he is getting what he needs;after the each breast feeding time give 60ml of milk,I was told.

So, I was debated if I just simply cuddle then and let him snooze a bit and give him the milk more.

Well,I decided to let him decide so, I prepared 70ml (when 60ml, in the past, he seemed wanted more) and tried to give him.

His eyes were wide open, flapping his hands with wide open mouth as if to say “Hurry up,I can drink more!”

So, I gave him that 70 ml milk.He then gave me a big man burp after that.

He is now peacefully back to sleeping… Zzzzzzz

Liam Day 97 in the swing..

I was reading mayo clinic book (I read it like a textbook because I know nothing and want to study on them) and amazing thing I read today is that, babies can distinguish mother’s breast milk from other baby’s mom’s breast milk because of sensory skill.

I was surprised. Wonder if Liam could do blind tasting and pick my breast milk from the bunch,lol

Stay tuned for more Liam’s story..

Jan 30, 2018 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note:Liam’s first year:Day 89- Day 91

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 90

1.2.3.4.5.6.7.8…. Liam has been doing tummy time exercise everyday; a couple of times a day, and he seems to be able to hold his head higher,longer than before.

Longest time he hold his head high is 124 seconds so far. This is something he does good on.

I was reading Mayo clinic book that I got to learn more about baby care (Liam slept better during daytime on the day 90),and it mentioned that the babies who does tummy time tend to crawl,,roll over, and sit up earlier than the ones who does not get to do the tummy time exercise.

I do not know if it is true or not but, when I try to set him up for tummy time exercise and let him be on his tummy,he did not need much push from me anymore.

I still did gently help him roll onto his tummy but he is on his tummy mostly on his own.

Maybe he will roll over soon,much sooner than 6 months old time…

Anther big thing might be that he has got a huge balance ball and he did ball exercise with me.

He enjoyed tummy massage after that. Side of his body seems to make him feel tickle and he twitches and he is so cute!

Worth the wait for 10 long years… Really, impossible dream made possible:-)

Day 91..

When pacifier is not near, Liam has figured out that he could suck on his hand. If not, suck my hands while trying to burp him at milk time:-)

Since he started putting his hands in his mouth, I am wiping his hands and drooly face all the time.

This also means that I have to make sure that all the family members and visitors wash their hands thoroughly so whatever they touch would not be transferred to his hands and to his mouth.

Maybe I should put “Liam’s law” on his crib side:-)

Liam day 91 years old.. fingers in mouth..

Liam liked talking to himself softly like eh,eh. Sometimes, it sounds like saying “hi”.

He likes to talk after his milk time.He burped like a man,lol.

Day 92..

Liam has breast fed, and in the middle of being fed, he fell asleep with the milk drop on his cheek,lol.

So precious looking but since I could not move,I did not get to take a picture of it.

After a while, he woke up,wiggling so,I put him on my chest facing toward me and he went to deep sleep ZZZZZZ

Then, another hour later or so, he cried out loud and had another milk and he was content,making sound eh,eh and flapping hands looking around,yawn… in his crib.

He has been active ..

When he started liking pacifier, we got him wubba pacifier,the one with stuffed animal on it.

He can hold it while sucking but he has not being able to grab and bring it to his mouth yet.

He can suck his finger though.. When he loose the pacifier,he cries…….He tries to search with his mouth but not yet with hands..

Bath time came..

He used to cry out loud like screaming cat,but now, I let him hold my body and talk to him whole time singing jabu jabu jabu (Japanese) with made up tone and he has being quiet:-)

I think having something to hold onto might have made him feeling more secure and I can bath him alone,without my husband’s help:-)

Anyway, just about being ready to bath him, he started turning his face red,which I now know that he is working on something from rear end..

He did that for a couple of times and heard some wet sound and, yes, I knew poop was coming out. So, I waited out a bit and then, I peeked through the diaper first.

Wow, it got so much in it and he was still producing green tooth paste texture poop….

I have cleaned his rear end nice and clean first and then bathed him.He should be feeling clean and fresh.

Even if I did not plan to bathe him today, he needed one after the big poop time.

After the bathing time, he drunk his favorite mama’s milk and took a bit of nap.

However, he was already up talking eh..eh.. ehh..

Feeling more milk time coming on his way soon:)

Milk time came..

He burped like a man, real real big one.

I was happy (not sure why I get satisfaction out of his burp but I do,lol) and realized that he missed the whole burp cloth spot and burped onto my shirt,lol.

I wore burp cloth big enough space but guess he needed more:-)

And… we got size 1 diaper, graduating from newborn size one.

When we visited baby store on the day 91, we got him elephant wubba (pacifier with elephant on it).

We got 2 already (dog and monkey one) but last time we visited hospital, on the way to the hospital,we realized we forgot pacifier to bring and had to turn around to home to get it because he needs it to calm down.

So, we decided to get the 3rd one and keep it in my diaper bag so we know we always have one whenever we go and no more missing soother.

Stay tuned for more Liam’s story.

Jan 10, 2018 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note:Liam’s first year:Day 86 – Day 88

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 86

After a bit of milk time,I usually did exercise/massage with him.

On Day 86,he got me surprised because he hold his head high for 124 seconds!! That is like more than 2 minutes.

Up until that day, 80 seconds was the longest time he hold his head high when he is on tummy time.

His neck muscle seems to be getting stronger each day.

On day 86, he had to change his clothe 3 times.. And it seems always happen to have his clothe messy right after I finished the laundry for Liam….

Within 4 days, he was to be 3 months old! I felt time flies!

During the 3 months, even though I was a newbie mom, I have found some things that I liked and some things that I did not like to use for care Liam.

Here are things that I really liked.

I have mentioned about this in the past but, I liked using Bob B-safe (Britax) stroller&car seat I loved 4 wheels on them other than 3.

Felt like it got great support,and the wheel were thick and nice big size and it rolls well on bumpy road/area and rolls smoothly.

Liam grew out of the car seat attached to the stroller but we like the stroller a lot and still is his stroller and lasting quite long. I love them.

Bob B-safe (Britax) stroller&car seat..

Arms reach co-sleeper; can have babies in it up until 15 lb. has same level of regular bed and you can put the bed right next to your bed and can observe the baby from there.

And, it got pockets on both and bottom has storage and can put swaddle,wipe box,clean sheets etc Side is mesh so, no worry about babies get face to bumpers,cannot breathe etc.

Another one I really liked was bottle made by chico.

The brand has “natural fit new born flow nipple”,which i believe is the slow flow and it got unique angle and shape so it will decrease the air sucks in compared to other bottle nipple.

Chico bottle “Natural fit”..

Also, I liked breastfriend. I put Liam on it and feed him whether direct breastfeeding or via bottle.

Breast friend….

Other stuff I learned and liked was renting the breast pump symphony (retail price is more than $2000.) from hospital. It was a big help to me.

Insurance company can get you compact travel size one made by the same company to symphony but it did not do good as much as I want it to be.

It already died after 1 month use… I rented the pump from hospital pharmacy and paid every month.

First 2 weeks after the discharge from hospital,I could rent the same pump from lactation consultant for free.

What else.. Boppy’s nursing cover was good.You can hold it into little tiny bag and can carry well.

And the diaper bag.. I really really liked the one made by skip hop Grand central Take it all diaper bag.

It got 2 size thermo pocket,and there are other outside pocket.Lots of them and it has changing sheet and it got rings/strap you can attach to the stroller.

Only thing I wish it got was shoulder strap so you can wear it cross from shoulder.Otherwise,it works really good.

Surely,when babies comes to your family,they need lots and lots of stuff. And also realized babies go through clothes a lot in a day and lots of laundry everyday.

Day 87..

Liam had to change his cloth, and his crib sheet as well.

He was not happy about re-doing his diaper (he peed while I was trying to change and he had to be re-done) and wiggled his foot so much.I am amazed how fast he can put his leg up and down.

Liam was changed into his monkey footie. The clothe was newborn size but he still can wear it.However, it was getting tight on him a bit.

Day 88..

For some reasons, he was so happy and smiling a lot and flapping hands and wiggling legs and so active.So,I had to take a picture of him being so happy and he gave me the biggest smile I have ever seen during his 88 days with me.

Liam Day 88 big smile…

Liam still worked hard to get his head as high as he can….

Liam day 88.. trying to get his head high as much as possible..

Stay tune for more Liam’s story.

Dec 07, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note: Liam’s first year: Day 82 to Day 85

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 83..

Liam was coughing/sneezing here and there (we woke up chilly temp; 68F in the room….) but no fever,and had good appetite.

Just he had hoarse voice. I hoped he did not catch a cold. We made sure the heat was on and set the temp at 74F and the room became more comfy.

Liam had been sleeping well and, he and I had nice breast feeding time together. When he stopped sucking, I though he was done and pulled out and he cried out loud and head banging to my chest trying to re-claim the breast:-)

He was then fell asleep afterwords.

I read in the mayo clinic book that breast milk has some sort of hormone that makes babies sleepy. It might be why he fell asleep at the end.

I liked watching quiet,peaceful, dreamy Liam who made smile here and there as he dreamed in my arms.

That day, Liam changed 3 clothes. Last change was because when he burped big, he burped the milk in his drool as well and wet his foot and it was sticky to touch so, I changed his clothe.

I let him try 3 months old clothe for the first time. He fitted well already although length is probably 1″ excess for him.

He was growing right in front of our eyes so fast!

Day 84..

We took Liam to the restaurant where we knew that not many people were dining when we normally dine at.

It went smoothly. He slept through whole time.

Only minor problem was that, we had to figure out how to fit the car seat on the booth we sat on.

Otherwise,we could enjoy the meal as much as we do:)

Another first time experience that day was that I used changing station and feeding room in the public for the very first time.

Liam was reluctant burper as NICU staff calls him. He does not want to bend willingly and tries “stiff leg” and tries to reclining back…so took a bit time to out the room.

He used to be able to sit willingly but these days.. he started to do the stiff leg things.It usually starts with starts crying wanting to drink more and the stiffen his leg.

I tried to wait till he slows down and then pull out the bottle and then try to burp him but he did his stiff leg still.

If he was not crying, of course,like.. milk drunk,then, he bends easily.I know there are other position of burping but sit-up seemed to be the most effective way to let him burp.

Anyway, I tried searching some tricks on the net, and one of British website said to use the pacifier as distraction and then bend.

I tried that and it was working at first, but Liam started to figuring out my secret trick in the sleeve and sometimes, it worked, and sometime not work.

Whether he burped or not burped or tiny burp, I started waiting for 5-10 minutes after he finished his feeding and then let him sit up as the last burp time.

It seemed to get the burp out more.

Other than that, after the feeding,I was giving him tummy massage every time.It seemed to work.

Day 85..

It had been very busy with Liam’s doctor visit.

The highlight for the doctor visit was audiologist. Liam had sensor stuff on his forehead,behind ears etc to let doc see brain activity for the sound he would hear through the ear plug.

Liam 85 days old…. at audiologist office..

At NICU, 2 months ago, we were told his left ear hearing is inconclusive and did not pass the hearing test.

Therefore, we had to make an appointment with audiologist approved by Virginia department of health and he passed the test today:-)

They said so far, both ears looked good and can hear but, they would like to follow up after 6 months until.. possibly 2 years old.

It was very very tiring day but I was glad he passed the test.

Since it was very tiring day, it was easy dinner then.

My husband loved my made up sauce,which I call it Korean style Teriyaki sauce.I used it for seared scallops and vegetable medley. Try and see if you like it too.

Yassy’s Korean style Teriyaki sauce

1. Mix following ingredients and pour it onto skillet at the very end when veg or protein source are finished cooking in the skillet

2 cloves garlic grated
1 tbs soy sauce
1/4 tsp Kalbi (very spicy Korean BBQ/marinade sauce)
1 tbs sake
1 tbs white sugar

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Oct 16, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note: Liam’s first year : Day 79-Day 81

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 79..

On the day 79, I was happy.

Me and Liam had been doing good on direct breast feeding.

It was difficult for both of us at the beginning but Liam learned the skill for the breast feeding and he was doing great.

Back in July,when Liam was still at NICU, he was refusing my breast and cried loud and ended up bottle with feed tube thing if he could not finish it up…

2 months later,me and Liam finally got hang of it and doing good on breast feeding .

Day 79,, he sucked my breast 24 minutes one side, and 12 min the other side and when he was sucking the last side, he fell asleep.

Guess sucking was such a hard work for him:-)

Usually, he ended up falling asleep on the second breast.I do not know if it is what I read about breast milk ; the book said it got some sort of hormone that makes babies sleepy.

With bottle, his eyes are open and gradually, start to close but not fully as much as he would with direct breast feeding.

The tired little Liam had extra bottled breast milk (as par pediatrician’s recommendation to make sure he still is getting minimum he needs) 60 ml and went to bed at night.

Liam cried a bit one time on the day after he went to bed for the night and, I thought it was cry for “Give me the food” cry.

Therefore,I prepared milk and came back to his crib for the diaper change.

However…what I saw was… Liam’s eyes were closed (could see his white area in his eyeball) and Zzzzzz.

I tried to leave but he woke up and wiggle so, I did diaper change anyway.

After the diaper change, his eyes closed again and started Zzzzz again..

So, I decided it was false alert for the feed time…

I kept the milk still on the counter for just in case he wakes up and cry again within 1 hour but he was still sleeping…1 hour later.

Milk was no longer good for the feed..in the end but that was ok.

I am still trying to learn what cry is what.

It was one of the hardest skill to learn what the baby wants when they cry.

Day 81..

I finally had quiet whatever time for the day:-)

Liam had tummy-ful of milk at 4pm and was up vocalizing none meaning sound here and there,looking around, sucking pacifier here and there for a bit and finally he fell asleep.

As he gets older each day,I feel like he is more up in the morning, down in the afternoon.Seems like he slept longer between the meal at night.

So, in the morning, I find what I do is always the same;feed him,pump milk,eat breakfast/lunch, shower,take Palette for potty,go check mail etc.. and soon, sun goes down.. I needed more time in a day!

24 hours seemed not enough for me to do everything I need to do…

By the day 81, I found myself picking real quick recipes for dinner to make and trying to find whatever double duty thing:-)

Really, how I spend my day has changed with Liam (in a good way).

Day 81 was simply roasted pork tenderloin with OJ Apricot sauce served with.. vegetable medley over rice.

It is simple but tasty.

My husband loves this dish (roasted pork tenderloin,that is.I usually switch up the sauce keeping the basic the same) and it makes him smile.Try this to see if you like one too.

For 2-3 servings..

Coat the 1 pork tenderloin with steak seasoning mixed with ground cumin and paprika and roast it at 450F for 15-25 minutes til internal temp reaches at 150F

Let it rest and slice and serve with the OJ Apricot sauce.

With this sauce, I made it up and did not write down how much I used each ingredients but you can adjust to your taste.

Mix Marmalade,Apricot preserve, honey,rice vinegar,ground cumin, paprika,Mexican style chili powder,and bit of OJ concentrate in the sauce pan,

Then, bring it to boil and after boiling, turn the heat to simmer to thicken.

Drizzle the sauce over the pork and serve.

I like the smokiness spice creates.I am a big fan of cumin.

More Liam’s story continue.

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Sep 18, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note: Liam’s first year: Day 72 – Day 78

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

At day 72, he was 9 lb 6 oz boy.. Almost doubled in size.He was growing nicely.

At about day 72 or so, we had issue with him crying a lot and sometimes nothing worked.It was one of those busy mom days with wits end.

After trying swing and that did not work, I was not sure what would be better to try next. Being a first mom and my own mother is living 14 hours flight away,it was tough moment.

However,looking back, those hardship made myself grow inside and outside.

I once thought of letting Liam sleep inside the swing if swing made him sleepy and he fell asleep but,we were not supposed to do so as par our therapist’s advice for to collect the torticollis with misshapen head (flat head).

Day 73..

I was feeling super tired.. thinking about taking a nap..just could not stop yawning.

I breastfed Liam morning again. He did fine.

When breast milk in the bottle is low in supply,I had to rely on formula which seemed to make him gassy and I really hated to give it to him.

At day 72, as par pediatrician & mother in law suggestion,we gave him gas drop right before meal before his bed time, but not sure if it did any better than a night before.

Especially because I gave Liam tummy massage ,which encourage gas goes to right direction to pass, every milk time so, I expected him to fart after that.

Around the same time I was having issue with his crying, gassy tummy issue on and off, I also was suffering with blocked milk duct.

Therefore, I tried epsom salt solution to see if it helps any quite a lot.

With previous episode, epsom salt with warm compress worked good.

Those days, with Liam’s hospital visits,I had days now and then where I could not pump every 2-3 hours as I should have done, and on and off,I had block duct issue and it was painful.

<Epsom salt solution for blocked ducts>

Epsom salt water solution; 2 tsp Epsom salt in 1 cup warm water.

Epsom-salt soaking before breastfeeding helped to open the milk duct opening and also aids in healing.

What I did was to put the epsom salt in the bowl and then, add small amount of really hot water to dissolve.

Then add warm water to cool it down.

I wet the washcloth in the solution and loosely squeeze out the solution and lean back a bit and put the cloth over my breast for 15 minutes or so.

I did it before nursing, before pumping

This epsom salt solution really worked good for my issue.

Day 77

Liam Day 77, in Giraffe gown..

On day 77, Liam killed 2 crib sheets, 2 clothes, 1 diaper we were going to slip it under him to change… It was right after I just did laundry for his yesterday and already got more to wash.

This was the 3rd clothe in one day….

Little one really went through lots of clothes a day.

This giraffe clothe was a gown. It was rather big for him even though it was newborn size. But big one looked cute on him though.

More Liam’s story continue.

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Aug 09, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note: Liam’s first year: Day 68- Day 72

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 70..

Went to 2 doctor visit with Liam. It was such a long day for us.

One of the two doctor was pediatrician and Liam was weigh in again;9 lb 6 oz (almost doubled in 2 months plus), 53 cm (21″).

Our pediatrician “Doctor Yum” has rooms with vegetable or fruit name on it.Liam used to go to sweet pea room; 0-1 month old room.

Now,from day 70, he was upgraded to blueberry room; big boy room:-)

Our pediatrician carry her practice with philosophy that the healthier the diet, the better being to be,and she got vegetable garden there and teach kids to cook.I like that.

I like she is teaching kids life skill like cooking but at the same time, she is eating kids to eat healthy food (Fresh food as opposed to process food).

I asked about the feeding; weaning over to direct breast feeding and,I got OK from pediatrician to omit the fortifying breast milk with formula powder from now on since he is growing well:-)

In Liam’s case, he was on similac expert care neosure (22cal) diet, and since breast milk is 18 cal ,they asked us to fortify my breast milk with powder to bump up the cal to 22kcal.

By that method,he gained 1 oz per day.

That made me super happy because I really did not want to give formula,which seems to create gas/straining problem with Liam more.

The nurse there said that straining could be from iron in the formula,but I do not know if it was what it was.

Anyway, she told me how to wean him over to the direct breast feeding and I tried full breast feeding for one feeding so far.

Other doctor was pediatric surgeon office. After coming back from follow up check of hernia, I offered breast and he suck 10 minutes one side and 20 min the other side!

At the time, I was curious about how long he would keep sucking so, I let him go at it. He was actually still sucking at 20 minutes but I put my finger in his mouth to let go and I pumped the rest to make sure both gets emptied out.

Then,as par pediatrician order, we gave him breast milk in the bottle to make sure he is getting what he needs.

After the feeding, he has slept 5-6 hours, cross way in his crib.

Day 72..

 

Liam had poop blow out, and he was so unhappy.I changed his diaper but he needed to change his clothe too.

He did not care for being naked and cried loud and after that,he was content in my arms but started crying again.

I tried holding him,swing motion and hold him, gave him tummy massage etc.. but nothing worked.

I was at wits end but then,I thought of swing and put him there with pacifier,and he stopped crying and he was happy boy.

I thought back then that when I did not find any more reason to cry for,swing would be the way to go.

However, overall, I do not think he used swing frequently.

Liam 72 days old…

Stay tuned for more stories of Liam.

Jul 03, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note:Liam’s first year:Day 63 – Day 67

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Day 63…..

Since he was born, he was master of moving small hands and chubby legs so fast.

I still remember when my mother in law has seen him flipping the hands so fast that she once said that he looked like an Indian god with 6 arms (Kali).

Day 63, Liam was in the mood of exercising on the floor and I had lots of fun watching his moves.

I got Liam’s exercise tutorial then.

Follow his move.

1. Left arm up,right arm down,right leg up,left leg kick to the right side

2. Right arm up, right leg down, left leg kick to the right side

3. Right arm straight down, left arm down to the 4 o’clock position, right leg stay down, left leg kick to the side a bit higher

4. repeat

I just took picture of his exercise because his foot move was funny and that I saw the monkey toes (curling up his toe although I could not capture his monkey toe part with this picture).

I can do Monkey toes and my father can do that too but my mother cannot do it, my husband cannot do it.

Day 64… Heart doctor visit…

Liam had to go to Heart doctor on Day 64, and he did weigh in.

He was weighing 9 lb 1 oz, and he was 53 cm (about 20″) tall.

He was gaining one ounce per day. Growing like a weed.

Liam did echo (ultrasound on his heart). It seemed that the 2 holes were not closed yet, but doctor strongly thought that those holes are smaller and he would expect them to be closed on its own as he grows more.

The leak in his heat is minor at that point and, he wanted to simply keep an eye on it.

He thought the leak was also not a problem enough to cause Liam to have anything major to live his normal life.

Overall, heart seemed to be not much of worry and, I was relieved.

You can imagine how we felt when we were asked to sit down and talk about issue doctor has found on his heart long time ago. Since heart is major thing and it got me scared but fortunately not as serious as son of Jimmy Kimmel “Billy”.

The doctor did not think of the need to do surgery and that was a good news. Even if he needed one, the surgery itself looked minor and not an open heart surgery.

The location of the heart (center) might need be monitored for the lung,we were told back then, but so far so good.

We came back home being told that we should see the doctor again   in 6 months, and after that when he became 3 years old.

After the heart doctor visit, Liam was sleeping soundly..

All the poking might have made him sleepy.However, he took all the milk I gave to him after coming back home. He eats good.

 Day 66..

For last 2 days or so, Liam got better at breastfeeding technique, and I saw his chin moving and swallowing more frequently.Then, I started getting hang of it too as day passes by.

Since big bottle/jag of formula we were feeding to Liam alternating with breast milk was gone,I switched him to all breast milk feeding again just like we used to (when supply is low, use formula) since I seemed to produce more milk than before.

Day 65, he was up about every 2 hours or so and I got less sleeping (1 hour or so each in between the feeding) and I found myself feeling very tired and having hard time to keep my eyes open..

I was fortunate then my mother in law was staying with us and helped us to feed him.

I could nap while she was feeding etc.It was a big plus for me.

Day 66 night, me and Liam had rough night.

As you know, I was way too tired and took nap like around 8 pm to 10 pm or so.

When I went to nap, my mother in law fed him.

When I asked her if he was all right (I saw her holding Liam in her arms in the dim light), she said she got good burp out of him, but Liam was straining excessively and she picked him up and he farted a lot.

She thought he had lots of gas in his tummy.

Previous feeding which I did at about 4pm,Liam was fine. No straining, no discomfort look, no nothing.

One thing that alarmed me was that he took 100ml milk of breast milk in 10 min, which I thought was too fast.

It might be too vigorous sucking to feed and air got in his tummy?

And even though he did burp I heard, he might needed more burping out?

Too much crying to the time he was actually fed caused it??

I thought of all the possibilities but I was not sure which one was the cause.

Because of gassy tummy, he could not sleep well and cried, cried every 15 minutes or so even though he was not crossing his leg to strain.I picked him up, rock him,but nothing worked.

So,finally, it came across my mind that we could do tummy massage.

So, I did that on him by laying him on the towel on the floor and some gas came out from rear.And he was feeling better.

If yo udo not know how to do the tummy massage, here is how you do it.

Infant Tummy Massage

Babies digestive system works clock wise motion. Babies’ uncomfortable side tend to be left hand side;12’oclock to 6 o’clock side…

1. Head touch; with your left hand side, cup his head and with right hand give him circle motion touch on his head, to calm him

2. With your right hand, place to the cross your baby ‘s tummy. Slide hands on his tummy to the groin. Repeat with your other hand (like a water wheel),a few times

3. Place your thumbs on the center so your hands come to their side of the body.Then, slide out to the waist, a few times

4. Imagine the clock. With your left hand, gently slide your hand from 7 o’clock to 7 o’clock clock wise (big circle) ,a few times

5. With your right hand, gently give pressure and slide your hand from 12 o’clock to the 6 o’clock clockwise, a few times

6. Alternate 7 o’clock to 7 o’clock motion with 12 o’clock to 6’ oclock motion, a few times

7. With your right hand,write the Japanese Hiragana letter の;From 12 o’clock to 7 o’clock and 7 o’clock to 7 o’clock a few times

8 Hold baby’s ankle and gently bounce to relax his tummy, a few times

9. Hold onto his ankle and take his knee and, very gently push baby’s legs against his belly, hold 5 seconds. Release the leg.

10. Bounce the leg again and repeat. Can do up to 6 times with leg bend motion.

Next feeding came. I tried to let him sit to burp but he did not want to bend, which he sometimes did when he wanted to drink more milk before the burping.

So, I let him drink a bit more and then tried bending him to sit.I do not know which, if he wanted to drink more thus he did not want o bend then or because of gas in the tummy.

He fought with me a bit trying to reclining back, but he did sit and he gave me a big burp.After that, he was able to sit without fighting me back.

That reaction,I had about 1 feeding after the feeding done by my mother in law,which was about 4 am feeding then.

Finally came 7 am or so feeding,. Liam could burp without fighting me back from the first time to sit to burp.

He was drinking milk much more slowly and I took more break to burp; about one sit up to burp at about every 1 oz or in the middle when he slowed down.

At the end, I had him sleep in my arms. So,he was then felt better and slept good for another 4 hours then.

Next feeding after the 7am feeding time,he did fine; no fighting with me to burp and I could have him sleep at the end,and he slept good 3-4 hours which he could not do since 10 pm last night.

So, I was up all night from 10 pm to 7 am that day… Liam did not have a good sleep either.

I slept in next day because of that. I had many thing to learn each day about parenting.

I admire my mother how she raised me and my sister when you yourself actually go through the parenting experience. I thank her every much.

Day 67..

When another feeding time came, he was taking milk slowly,which was good.

However, since he cried when he wiped his mouth and ready to let him sit up, I worried about gas in his tummy again.

But then if the crying starts even before I touch him for sit up to burp,then,I wondered it is his saying of “I want to drink more milk!” rather than “My tummy hurts”.

After a bit more drinking, he did not cry when I wiped his mouth ready to sit up to burp and he sit up without fighting me.I tapped his back to burp but no burp coming.

After the bottle finished (breast milk),I let him sit again and tried to burp him but no burp.

It might be because no air in his tummy especially he was drinking milk slowly. But when you do not hear the burp, I get sort of panic..partly because I am getting used to hear at least one good burp.

Every once in a while,I did not get any burp out of hm but it was rare occasion.

Since I did not hear his burping,I did tummy massage just in case,which simply makes me feel comfortable doing so when you do not hear the burp.

Now,he was comfortably sleeping with his both arms up.

Stay tuned for more stories of Liam.

May 03, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s note: Liam’s first year: Day 61- Day 63

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Already 2 month have passed since the day he came to the world to say “Hi” to us.

Day 61..

Me and my parents tend to do skype more often than before after Liam was born although for about 2 months or so last year, we did not do skype just because Liam got jet lug after visiting them and he kept waking up at strange hours and, until he gets back to his old schedule and being able to sleep through the night, I did not want to mess his schedule.

Since they cannot come as often as my sister could (they live 1 hour drive away from my parent’s house), I like to compensate that with skype chat.

Plus,when we do skype they can give me parenting advice here and there and they can tell us what parents can in Japan on the specific topic and it is good chance for me to learn more about parenting as well.

I know there is no textbook on parenting nor there should not be cookie-cutter style of parenting.However, getting a bit of parenting tips/suggestions always enrich my view on my own parenting knowledge and I am grateful for that.

I am more of type that study all kinds of method in book or other media sources and pick the good stuff from those and make up my own method and put it into practice.

They always asks for Liam and when I show them, they look so happy:-) And my mother tries to entertain Liam through screen.

I know they would come visit us once in a while, but I know my grandmother would not be able to come here even if she says she wants to come because of health.

And, now I got health worry for my father so, I do not know if he could visit us again or not.

naturally,since we are younger than them and got more energy than them, we should go back to Japan as much as we can.

On the same day, Liam had poop blow out in the early morning and, while he was crying from top of his lung,I had to change his clothe,cleaning him and everything.

It is my very first time experience raising the baby, but babies sure makes mothers keep up on toe and make us mothers busy with laundry and surely needed lots of clothes to change into/much more frequent laundry than usual.

That day, I tried to do laundry later, and it stopped working…in the middle of the washing cycle…

Therefore, when my husband came home from work, he spent hours on it and he thought he could fix it.

We did test run without clothe inside and it finished ok .

Even though washer seemed to be fixed when test run,and worked ok for more years, but we ended up buying a new one;the one with front load as opposed to top loading style.

I cannot decide if I like front load style or not yet. Definitely I do not have to worry about clothes or towel etc gets caught in the middle spinner thing or uneven weight though.

What style of washer do you like better and why?

Day 62…..

We worked with Liam for tummy time while I can keep an eye on him.

He could raise his head a touch bit higher than before, and he also was doing his own exercise everyday; arms up, arms down, leg up, leg down..

He seemed to enjoy all the movement he made then.

Liam Day 62 working on raising his head higher…

Liam Day 62.. Liam style exercise making him tired…. Y.A.W.N…

Day 63…

Comparing with picture of him to younger picture of his, he looked like he got chubbier in this picture.

Before, he looked so small,frail, tiny and weak and he could not drink milk as much as he could.

Since pediatrician said he could take milk up to 3.5 oz per feeding, that was what we were doing.

He got bigger and stronger each day.

Mar 21, 2017 | 0 | parenting

Yassy’s Note: Liam’s first year; Day 55 – Day 61

In the previous entry titled “Yassy’s note: Liam in NICU;day 8- day 14“, I wrote Liam came to our family about 3 weeks early (36 weeks and 2 days) and he has spent next 3 weeks in NICU.

He was tiny little baby; 18″ tall, weighing 5 lb 6 oz…

Already 1 month plus have passed, almost 2 month since the day he got discharged from the hospital.

Day 55..

My personal choice of clothe was creeper style clothe then, but on the day 55,  I changed him into bodysuit with short sleeve.

I thought maybe he will be cold for the bottom a bit,and I let him wear the short pants. The pants looked a bit too long for him but it made him look cuter anyway so, I did not mind.

When he was hold in my husband’s arms, he made ultra man pause:-)

Liam 55 days old…

He says “I want to be looked cool like my daddy!”,lol.

On the day 53, Liam had surgery, and he had to stay at the hospital over night. During the stay, hospital provided diapers to us.

That hospital has provided Pumpers diaper. It was soft in texture and somewhat thinner than the Huggies diaper that we were familiar with but, it leaked and I did not care for them.

We use Huggies for tape style diaper because it is not as soft as Pumpers material but it holds urine/poo in place and looks like absorbing better and, rarely had leaking accident.

When it comes to pull up diaper which our son is now wearing, I prefer pumpers’ Easy Up.

Material is soft, and sides on the waist is not rough material and looks much more comfortable than Huggies Pull up diapers.

My sister got 4 kids and youngest one is on diaper.All of her kids grew up with Pumpers.

The pumpers brand is very respected brand in Japan, and many people like them there.

Day 59; Liam practice lifting his head up…

We out him on tummy now and then so he can practice lifting up his head.

When he lift his heads up, I found myself cheering up so much.

Liam 59 day old.. practicing lifting his head up…

He had many stuff on his plate for surgeries and stuff, but I trusted him;he can overcome all the difficulty that comes to him with his strong will.

His middle name “TSUBASA” means that if he set the goal,he will make an effort and achieve that goal.

Basically, wish he has strong will to overcome the all the hard stuff in his life.

The name also means that with that effort,he can achieve the bigger thing and success in his life.

As a side note,I heard it also got the meaning of being independent. Japanese middle name sure seems to have good effect on him.

Day 59; Skyping with my parents..

My parents always are looking forward to meeting Liam every week over the skype and enjoy how much he grows.They smile whole time we talk over the skype.

When I was talking on the day 59, and was showing Liam, he was doing his Monkey toe;curling up his toes just like I do.

Looking how he was doing with his toe, mom said “Just like you and your father:-)”

I kind of inherited that thing from my father and I think it was passed to Liam:-) It is funny to see that something you do is what your son/daughter does.

When my grandmother is on skype, she always asks when we will be visiting them with him. She always claps her hands saying “cute,cute” looking at Liam but then a bit later, she starts crying because she misses me a lot.

With her, talking is a bit emotional, but I would like to go see my family back home with Liam in the near future again.

WE visited them last October and my grandmother was so happy. Time passed so fast and,I felt it was a short trip to Japan.

At day 59-60, personally, I did not plan to travel anywhere at least for a year,that include visiting my family in Japan or visiting my mother in law (12 hrs drive away/1.5 hrs fight away) considering Liam being premature baby, and I wanted to be extra cautious as to where we take him to,when to take him to.

He would have been easy to catch something and I thought it would be better away from the general public a while.

Even at the hospital, at ER we went the other day, Liam was lead to the area where no other person was waiting because nurse thought it will be better for him to be away from the general public.

Also,when Liam was at NICU, every time we talk to NICU staff or nurse at hospital they reminded us to wash hands thoroughly before touching Liam because premature baby’s immune system is lower and that, if you were sick,then, it is better off not being around him. They seemed to be extra careful with him because of he being born early.

Looking back at his old pictures and videos, I feel Liam has grown up so much. He overcame a lot of things.

Time really seems to pass so fast with baby..

Stay tuned for more Liam’s story.

Feb 08, 2017 | 0 | parenting